Coping with Change: Do you give yourself enough time to process?

Coping with Change: Do you give yourself enough time to process?

  Many of you know that, at the beginning of last month, I moved back to Greece, after 7 years of living in London. I had wanted to make this move for several years, and I was super-excited about it. What you probably don’t know is that, before I moved back home, I went through another big transition in my life; that of breaking up from a 5-year-long relationship.    I desired both of these shifts. They didn’t ”happen to me”. I initiated them. I asked for them and planned for them.    And still, they were both just that: CHANGES. Transitions -big ones. A huge cycle in my life closing and a brand-new one opening up…And I realize now, in retrospect, how resistance and hesitant I was to really acknowledge that.    Because no matter how excited I was about moving back and starting fresh, no matter how much I was longing for both changes, this doesn’t in any way make it all ‘good’; it doesn’t take away all the different emotions that such a transition (just like every single transition) brings up -nice and not so nice, high and low, bright and dark.    I know now that I was so willing to just let go of the past and jump right into the next, new and exciting adventure that I didn’t leave any space for processing, for feeling, for sitting with what-is -whatever that was-, for grieving what was finished.     I found several distractions this month to keep my mind engaged, ranging from work to relationships to traveling, and so on…   And then, finally, my...