The Truth Behind New Year’s Resolutions

The Truth Behind New Year’s Resolutions

As we begin February this year, I am reflecting back on New Year’s resolutions, wondering how many of you set them a month ago and how you might be getting on with them… Personally, I’ve always been fascinated with the concept of the New Year. The transition from an old chapter to a brand-new, unwritten one and the opportunity to reset, start over and reflect on how I desire this new phase to be has always filled me with excitement and got my imagination and intention-setting skills on fire. Throughout my teenage years, when I was stuck in a diet-binge cycle, weight and body-related resolutions would always be at the very top of my long list every year. ‘I will lose 10 kilos this year’. ‘I will give up chocolate’. ‘I will get Christina Aguilera’s abs’ (who was then also a teenager and, as she later shared herself, was being forced by the music industry to be ‘toothpick thin’) ‘I will exercise for an hour every single day’. And so on… The emotional ‘high’ I would get by simply fantasizing about these goals coming true, along with the collective wave of fresh, new beginnings’ energy that was all around me, made me feel unstoppable and so very determined to accomplish what I had in mind, certain that my determination alone would be enough to carry me all the way to my much-desired goal (my dream body) and break through any obstacles that might get in my way. ‘This is THE time that I will finally do it’, I remember thinking to myself. And I would start working really hard…but...
Wish you had more will-power and self-discipline? You don’t need it! Here’s why…

Wish you had more will-power and self-discipline? You don’t need it! Here’s why…

”I wish I was stronger than my cravings” ”If only I had more will-power / was more disciplined” ”I’m really weak, I just can’t resist the temptation, so I’ll never be able to lose weight / have a body that I like..” I hear that ALL.THE.TIME.  From clients, friends, family…from women all around me.  And yes, of course I used to believe that so strongly myself. The belief that the reason you are struggling with your weight and body is because you don’t have enough will-power and self-discipline is one of the biggest myths out there and sadly, one of the most common ones.   When it came to food and my body, I used to be the biggest control-freak ever. I would count my calories religiously, exercise for 90 minutes every day, eat super-clean, always be ‘on top of it’. I would check my body meticulously in the mirror every morning, and if I noticed that I’d gained half an inch -or if I thought I had-, I would diet harder, exercise longer, until it was dropped. Until I was ‘in control’, again.   Needless to say, I felt so good about myself, SO proud. And it seemed to work. For some time.    Until that day would come, when my ‘will-power’ wasn’t that strong anymore, when my desire became bigger that my control, and all that energy that I’d suppressed, through pure force, would bounce back up and take over. Like a pressure-cooker that you leave on for too long, the trapped steam would just explode, and I’d give in and give up completely, eating anything and...